Why Shade Never Makes Sense & Choosing Happiness Does

Choosing Happiness Deffinatlyshaz

Choosing Happiness Deffinatlyshaz

Choosing happiness! During the beginning of the year, I committed myself to reading at least one book a month.  I figured this would be the best way for me to be well versed in all the topics I am interested in.

Seven weeks into the year,   I have I finished reading three books to which all I have enjoyed. I have read, “Rich dad, Poor Dad” (I know I should have read this ages ago), Fifty Shades Darker and You Can Heal your Life by LouiseHay.  I finished reading the later a few days ago, which obviously brings us to today’s’ post. Before I go any deeper, this post is not about throwing shade or disrespecting some of the people  in my past. It’s simply sharing what my life has been like of late.From time to time I like to share bits and pieces of my life. It may not be necessarily about fashion. I am quite certain that most of you know that this blog is 50% about my personal style diaries while the other 50% is a mixture of everything else in between.  Suffice to say that today we are in between.

The book You Can Heal Your Life is a self-help book which talks about challenges that we face every day.  Insecurities, confidence or rather lack of it, jealousy, sickness, and the list goes on and on. One of the main important aspects that kept me hooked while I was reading the book was how the author strongly emphasised the power of speaking POSITIVITY into our everyday existence.  How it’s always important to understand that the universe loves gratitude. The more grateful you are, the more goodies you get. The more you appreciate yourself, the more happiness starts to make much more sense. Here is a little snippet from the book:

“You have the power to heal your life, and you need to know that. We think so often that we are helpless, but we’re not. We always have the power of our minds…Claim and consciously use your power.” She then goes on to say “… I have never understood the importance of having children memorise battle dates. It seems like such a waste of mental energy. Instead, we could teach them important subjects such as How the Mind Works, How to Handle Finances, How to Invest Money for Financial Security, How to be a Parent, How to Create Good Relationships, and How to Create and Maintain Self-Esteem and Self-Worth. Can you imagine what a whole generation of adults would be like if they had been taught these subjects in school along with their regular curriculum?”

How true is this? We all have a purpose to live. A reason that allows us to push for one more day.  At times we lose track of those things that we are truly passionate about especially when life gives us lemons. But that’s ok.

From childhood, I have always been confident and I am not sure how is that even possible but it’s probably because of the way I was raised. I remember at 7 years always being a loner and not worrying about the little “clicks” at school because I never fit in anyway. I did have one or two friends whom I loved dearly and  somehow those are the same standards I have managed to maintain up to today.  I find it more sensible to be thoroughly acquainted with a few people in my life; people I know I can always count on. I have never understood “shade”, gossip or unnecessary conflict. I have let so many of my relationships die simply because of lack of loyalty. But, that’s a story for another day.

We sometimes become so engrossed in other people’s lives, successes and failures that we lose our own identity. We will be alive but we will be leaving other people’s lives, other people’s dreams and other people’s failures. The biggest danger is that if those people are not around we do not know the left hand from the right. Yet we always need to remember that in spite of all the different types of relationships that we have, we’re still different individuals.

The older I get the more I realise that I don’t want to be around stress, drama  or conflict. I have become more accustomed to keeping by distance whenever I sense negativity. No one should be around such energy. If you have manged to read this long blog post up to this point, thank you. Always remember to choose happiness and staying true to the things that you believe in. At the end of the day, that’s all that matters.

About The Look

As I am writing this, I have just realised that I am so into off-the-shoulder trend. I am actually giggling and quite amused at how I have been wearing anything off-shoulder I can get my hands on. You can see this here, here and here.  I love it too much.   I paired the top with a white zip-up pencil skirt. Pencil skirts are my other obsession too.

I wore the skirt with the red shoes and for that usual pop of colour, I added the yellow bag. I love the bow and how the yellow just blends in with the rest of the colours.

Thank you for stopping by.

Love & Light!